more on forgiveness
After last week's post asking what you thought about forgiveness, Ally and then Cheryl have written some amazing things, so please go and have a read.
I am especially captivated by Cheryl's point that 'Forgiveness is giving up the concept of revenge'.
I am especially captivated by Cheryl's point that 'Forgiveness is giving up the concept of revenge'.
posted by Rachel at 7:53 pm
I just happened upon this on the BBC website - seems so relevant to this discussion. It's about Anthony Walker's murder, and how his family has chosen to forgive the killers. In theory I would want to forgive, but if this was my child, I am not so sure I would be able.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/merseyside/4471440.stm
for me to forgive is to be able to forget, or at least to live with whatever caused u're pain ,in peace..too hard ..
even when i forgive, i still feel anger and pain whenever i remember what 'd happened..
hope 'm making sense
Thanks for the link Rachel!
Foulla - I so agree with you. You might forgive a lion for biting off your leg, but that doesnt mean you stop bleeding, nor that you'd take your other leg within a mile of a lion. Forgiveness and distress are not mutually exclusive. At least, I don't think so. Off to read your blog.
Forgiveness isn't about excusing something someone has done, or ignoring it; it's more to do with accepting it as something that happened and learning to cope with it.
Forgiveness is for yourself - it's to help you go on and to live your life in this new reality that you've been forced into.
Well said, Sam! Revenge solves nothing, much as we may be tempted to avenge those who harm us.
Well said, Sam! Revenge solves nothing, much as we may be tempted to avenge those who harm us.
Signed: LM